The notion of right and wrong

This notion of right and wrong is one question that can always present a thinking mind with many dilemmas. Is there something like right or wrong in absolute terms or its just that what the majority believes is right becomes right. How to define fairness and where to incorporate fairness, in the rules or in the end result.

Recently while studying ethics and professional standards for financial markets I came across this beautiful idea which tries to explain this notion. I will try to state the idea here
First thing you need to do is find the system which gets affected by the action concerned. The system here refers to components from all aspects including economics, society, nature everything. Next define the working efficiency of your system. Now you have a very simple rule to judge any action. If that action reduces the working efficiency of the system, it is wrong and should not be practiced. Try to think of some practical applications with this idea, you will love it.


But the problem is not solved. Defining the efficiency is what will hunt you now.

A lover's dilemma

Every one has his own definition for love, but we can list some common attributes every one would agree to. When u love someone u just like the person so much that his/her very presence fills u with a magical energy wave. There is no limit to your happiness, and you are ready to face anything that comes your way. Love gives you an amazing strength to face anything.
But when you love someone your happiness is more related with the other person(the one u love) more than it is with u. U will happy if he/she is happy and sad if he/she is sad and u will do anything to make him/her happy and that in turn will make u happy.
But suppose that the person u love does not like you and in fact gets sort of uncomfortable with your presence. No matter how much happy u are in his/her presence u know that it makes the one u love unhappy.
Would you stay away from the very person you want to be with the most?

Philosophy

The best thing about philosophy is that it is not right or wrong. It is just philosophy.
Take for example "Tomorrow never dies".......if u wonder why u can get so many interpretations
1. there is always hope there is always a new beginning there is always tomorrow.
2. every time u say i will do it tomorrow, but that tomorrow will never come
So many different philosophies that revolve around some basic ideas and all find their followers.
Enough of philosophy but as far as tomorrow is concerned I would quote one my sayings(not so famous yet)
"Tomorrow never dies, so do it before today does"

Always live up to peoples expectations, but never expect anything from anyone. Seems tough! but it is the key to happiness. No one can ever hurt you until let him/her do so and when you start building expectations you are creating an opportunity for the same. I think this is what is called "detached attachment".
"But how can i not expect things from anyone?" .....good question. After all we are all social beings and live in harmony with each other. One cannot do everything by himself and should not. The point is when someone does good to you be thank full but when some one is not good to you don't complain(of course unless someone harms you). But don't take it to for. You will always find people around you who would be worth expecting from. They would be there for you in all your good and bad times. Those are the bestest people in the world, they are the greatest gift life has given to you, your best buddies. Never ever let them go.

But this mixed theory of expectations can sometimes be very pain full(although it will save u most of the times) because when you rarely build expectations and they are not realized its hurts more, so be very care full.
The theory of expectations can be applied to all sorts of situations.For example when u say "I love x" it is not subjected to the condition of x loving u, is it? You should not feel hurt if "x" does not feel the same way and u are the luckiest person if "x" does feel the same way.
But sometimes you can still be hurt no matter how strong you be in theory.
Is it right on ones part to show you a picture that is not really there. What can you do when one builds up your expectations and then blows them apart. If "x" gives a positive response you are bound to build expectations and then suddenly one day you find that "x" is now your ex.
What do you do now? Be very care full when you expect.